"I dont need you but I do. ♥"
What does that mean to you? In my opinion when I read that quote I think of two things, mixed feelings and regret, both things are not pleasent to think about so how could this quote be cute to someone? If someone were to tell me that they dont need me but they do, I would be one confused and two possibly hurt depending on who this came from. I saw this quote in someone's facebook status the other day and I didn't know what to think at all, I knew that this person had intended to be cute by making this staus about their significant other but honestly, its a little rude when you think of it.
Some relationships dont make sense to me at all, how could you fight with someone all the time, or how could you need someone and not need them all at the same time? Does that make sense to any of you?
Yes I know that its a proven fact that you need to be able to fight with someone if your going to be together because every relationship has its fights, no relationship is perfect and if it is then congrats you accomplished the impossible. I think that if you and your significant other are fighting all the time then somethings a little wrong there, because honestly you shouldn't have to fight over stupid things like what someone wore to school on "tacky tuesday" it doesn't matter!! Some couples just need to breath and relax, I think they should try to focus on the good points in their relationship and whenever one person gets mad at the other think to yourself: 'is this even worth it? is it worth going through all of this fighting just to get together and pretend everythings fine?' I hate seeing couples fight, it tears me apart. Even though its not my business I feel like they shouldn't be like that, especially fighting in puplic, if I walk by in a grocery store with my mom and hear a couple fighting it breaks me. They should be able to go out in public together to get the milk without arguing and going home angry. If you ever think that you dont need your significant other but you do then I think your confused and you should try to re-evaluate your relationship and see if its even worth it.
Why do some couples fight excessively? Anyone have an answer?
I'm sorry if I offended anyone, I did not intend to and this is not directed at anyone specifically.
I dont think it is for anyone else to decide whether a relationship is "worth it" or not. if its not your relationship then you should stay out of it.
ReplyDeleteheres a few reasons couples fight, (ive read up about it):
They get "bored". this is true because ive seen it happen,
they get so comfortable in the relationship that they know the other person wont leave and that leaves room to pick fights over little things
they need more romance in their relationship, fighting gets the feelings out and communication lines are open and things can be fixed and nice apologies are created.
alot of couples dont even HAVE big fights, they are small and over tiny little things that do NOT matter, and an outsider would see this small fight and ASSUME that its over something big, when in reality they have no diea what they are talking about. its easy to assume you know everything about a couple and they're problems, but you do not. I personally know alot of couples who fight and have the BEST relationship in the world.
I also think that your relationship CAN be perfect, you have to be positive, not NEGATIVE.
if you are in love with the person your with, the relationship IS perfect. things may not always GO perfect, but you have to look beyond that. its like, the glass is half full not empty.
I agree with you and I never said that anyone else should decide if the relationship is worth it or not I simply stated that the people in the relationship should maybe look at their relationship from a different level and decide if its worth it or not to THEM.
ReplyDeleteI know a lot of couples have little fights every now and then but if you have enough small little unresolved fights dont you think that could lead to a large on later on?
and I never said that I assumed I knew everything about couples... at all actually so I dont know where you got that from but I just dont like walking by a couple in the grocery store and listening to them scream at each other, that was the reason why I wrote this blog in the first place. I also wanted opinions on why some couples fight a lot so thank you for that the romance increasing makes complete sense but I think relationships shouldn't have to come to them picking little fights with each other just to increase the romance a little bit.
and yes maybe I should have worded the perfect part a little better, I just meant that a relationship cant go without fighting but it can go without having huge in public fights that was all.
thanks though :)
Well if you meant THAT then you could have said that INSTEAD? just as a suggestion, could prevent less assumptions from the readers.
ReplyDeleteand who said they were unresolved? alot of couples fix theyre small fights right then and there, i am not sure where you are getting the idea that every fight is unresolved
and i dont recall saying that you know everything about couples, although i DO recall saying that the general public might.
and i realize this blog was written for that purpose only, and that would be why i commented in the first place.
i also dont like seeing couples fight in public places such as school, a store, outside, ect. it makes me sick and i feel for them, as i have a boyfriend myself, and i find it unnecessary as well.
and agree
I never said that "every" fight is unreseloved, I said "if you have enough small little unresolved fights dont you think that could lead to a larger one later on?" word for word, so please read more carefully next time as I did not intend to offend anyone.
ReplyDeleteand exactlly, I think that if couples fight they should at least do it in privacy because its no one elses business but if they're fighting in public then anyone could hear and jump in or spread rumours around about it
But you also didnt SAY that you didnt mean every fight, which again, is only left for the reader to assume, and if i took it a certain way im sure i wouldnt be the only one, as another suggestion
ReplyDeleteand yes, especially at schoool. people assume too much when they walk by and hear a few simple words, it should be kept between the 2 people involved and nobody else. thats my opinion too
well im sorry then for offending you with my word choice, thank you for your suggestions
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